On Pete Walker's book about Complex PTSD, the Fawn response to emotional neglect, how sensitive we are and how confusing mind-reading can become the habitual response to confronting humans.
Who reads this and why?
Since I see that there seems to be a stable number of people reading this blog recently, but the blog (like my mind :D) is kind of jumping from topic to topic. So I was wondering if some of the readers would feel like sharing what's their context and interest in this? I think at … Continue reading Who reads this and why?
Disentangling emotional flashbacks from telepathic interference
Another post on how to cope with intuitive gifts (or liabilities) that come without a manual, or when your inner life apparently isn't only *your* inner life. Trauma-informed and psychologically literate, non-esoteric perspective.
On autistic C-PTSD recovery during pandemic
Essay on how shifting from frozen panic to being present with live panic can actually be a window of opportunity if you have the skills. And the value found in enforced periods of intense introverted presence.
Philosophical ironies of autistic under self-isolation
The irony of seeing my lifestyle imposed on the whole country and when my normal is suddenly the new normal; me & partner complaining about a lack of solitude under self-isolation; and when your maladaptive behaviours suddenly become adaptive.
How to cope with your intuitive gifts?
This article is written from the perspective of people who randomly experience things like "sensing presences" and some types of out-of-body experiences, in addition to intuitive coincidences and sometimes the whole range of depersonalisation phenomena – explicitly not from the perspective of people who actively seek this kind of thing and/or project hopes of awesome powers … Continue reading How to cope with your intuitive gifts?
Is it better to repress desires or suffer the emotions of unfulfillment?
While being fried about my frustrations by a wise person yesterday, I realised that apparently I have adopted over the last year or two a survival strategy that I had once looked down on when implemented by my mother: The strategy of avoiding, hiding, pushing out of mind your desires when it is clear that … Continue reading Is it better to repress desires or suffer the emotions of unfulfillment?
My history with labels & autism = sensitivity + coping strategies?
This is a mixed essay starting out with my personal struggles with the "autistic" label to complaints about rigid identity politics towards bookish theories about a missing distinction between the sensitivity vs. coping strategies dimensions of the "autism" concept.
Relationships without the saviour complex
It's been a while since I've been writing here, largely because I've been cutting down screen time to allow my eyes to get better. And travels. Being stuck alone at home with exceptionally lousy weather outside (storm warnings) is perhaps the moment to catch up. Via a friend's mention and then a good review on … Continue reading Relationships without the saviour complex