Are you an empath or a highly sensitive person?

Empaths feel other people's feelings physically, viscerally in their own bodies. They are not simply people who are highly empathic or exceptionally sensitive (the latter may enjoy resources for HSPs). They are not people who find it easy to imagine what other people feel. On the contrary, they often feel other people's feelings without understanding … Continue reading Are you an empath or a highly sensitive person?

Can an empath be autistic?

... since the one purportedly means being over-empathic and the other lacking empathy? Let me start by saying that both these definitions are wrong, and then tell some stories. The gossip Last year, a close friend of mine moved out of her ramshackle town up to Ottawa. She is not only diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome, … Continue reading Can an empath be autistic?

What the heck is an energy field?

I once got fired from an empath course because the instructor insisted that I invade her field. Since I was at the time a PhD student trained in science and not a medium trained in new-age phraseology, my deepest heartfelt response to that was "What?!". Electromagnetism? Potatoes? So should I bring rubber boots next time? … Continue reading What the heck is an energy field?

1984: why do they all doublespeak?

In a previous post, I have described the Catch-22 (crazy-making) situation of having empath experiences while not realising others don't. To keep up the reference to dystopic novels, over time this landed me in a serious 1984 episode of doublespeak. Because in believing that all people have intense empath and intuitive experiences which for some enigmatic … Continue reading 1984: why do they all doublespeak?

Catch-22: seeing the elephant in the room, and not realising others don’t

This is another episode from my empath story, this time in the form of a brief anatomy of madness. Because by my late teens, I thought I was going crazy. However, I never quite understood the logical structure of why. Now I think I do. I put it out there because I believe that phrasing … Continue reading Catch-22: seeing the elephant in the room, and not realising others don’t

How to stop feeling other people’s emotions – Zen version

After a year of practice yielding serious improvements, trying out a host of techniques, modifying, fusing, combining and dropping them — the following is how I would distill the essence of what works for me now into a minimal number of words. 1. Know Thyself. Feel Thy field. 2. Love and nurture your field, so … Continue reading How to stop feeling other people’s emotions – Zen version

Empath tale of the yellow hybrid typewriter

Let’s say you are Hemingway. You are sitting at your typewriter at sunrise, planning to write a novella about the old man and the sea. Inspiration hits; your fingers dance. As the Spanish sun rises inspiration ebbs; you start yawning (perhaps starting your working day at 4AM was that tad too radical), so you leave … Continue reading Empath tale of the yellow hybrid typewriter

The alternative, long-term empath survival kit

I've fed on and digested a wide range of advice for overwhelmed empaths from the web, courses and books. Testing, adapting and discarding, over time I've pieced together a strategy that's worked for me — moved me from having to avoid public transport or even lively streets towards enjoying travel, sometimes even relishing the bustle. … Continue reading The alternative, long-term empath survival kit